Hit me again the other day - confidence is independent of what happens around you.
"The world is what you think it is." So says the oldest known philosophy we have (Huna). And this is backed up by many others.
Confidence is self-generated, and takes practice, according to Napoleon Hill. He has it in his Chapter 3 on Faith.
It's just surprising to see this again in this light. Of course, I ran into it in Go Thunk Yourself over a decade ago. There I referred to Dale Carnegie who was quoting William James from the Gospel of Relaxation:
“Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not.
“Thus the sovereign voluntary path to cheerfulness, if our spontaneous cheerfulness be lost, is to sit up cheerfully and to act and speak as if cheerfulness were already there. If such conduct does not make you feel cheerful, nothing else on that occasion can.
“So, to feel brave, act as if we were brave, use all of our will to that end, and a courage fit will very likely replace the fit of fear ”.That is using your own action as a necessary crutch. Levenson's releasing and Silva's Active Meditation both work to create a point of release where you can simply assume a confident state rapidly (split-seconds, if you want).
And then, because you are confident, things tend to go the way you want. If you've been visualizing all along what outcome you expect, then you can simply apply Nightingale's attitude of Calm, Cheerful, Expectancy - and all turns out swimmingly.
You get exactly what you think.
So choose wisely.